Having Sex with a girl for the first time?

I am 35 years old and have had sex with prostitutes all my life. Now I am seeing girls but am afraid that they might realize i never had sex with real girls.



I am ashamed of paying for sex. I have always been shy all my life and often found it hard when girls play mind games thus i ended up paying for sex.



Now i am more confident about myself i am seeing girls on dates. What happens when i have to have sex with them ? will they get turned off because i dont understand how to have proper sex ?Having Sex with a girl for the first time?
Well I'd advise you only get this intimate with somone you are really comfortable with and have connected with emotionally first. Open up to them about yourself (although it's your choice as to wether or not you mention the prostitutes) and make sure she knows you're a fairly sensitive bloke. Communicating how you feel is always the best way to help someone understand why you're nervous.

As for your skills, which I presume is what you're worried about, think of it like this - every single person in the world has different likes and dislikes when it comes to music, tv shows, food, etc, and sex is no different. Speaking as someone who was in a 5 year relationship with the guy I lost my virginity to, you can know exactly how to please one person, only to find that the next boyfriend likes entirely different things. Every new person you're with means learning about sex all over again. Obviously you know the basics but that's all you CAN know about how to please her until you get down to actually doing it. You'll learn what she likes, and ask her to show you and tell you. She won't expect you to automatically know what her triggers are and a woman would much rather a guy was open and frank and gave her the opportunity to demonstrate how she like to be touched rather than just guess and hope for the best.



you're probably putting far too much tought into this - it's something we all go through and no one expects you to know unless you're familiar with them. Take it easy and remember that whoever you end up doing this with is probably more preoccupied with hoping you don't notice her cellulite/saggy boobs/big bum/whatever us women get hung up on! Having Sex with a girl for the first time?
Just watch porn movie and watch what they do there, try do same she'll like it 100%.
you are a sex addict
first of all thats descusting!

go to a docter check if you have an std before anthing!



and some girls think its cute when they take the ead
Just think of having sex with prostitues as one night stands. Alot of men in there thirties don't know how to please a women, if youve got the right girl she'll probably show you what to do etc,
Before you start having sex with what you call ';real girls'; get you self checked out. you could have an STI from the prositutes.

You never know, you could be good :)

Other than that

Yeah i agree.

Watch porn and try some moves, it will sure get your girl turned on ;)
You know the basics, now it's time to put your heart into it. Sex on a date is NOT a sure thing. If she isn't ready, that's a no. By the way, that's not a ';mind game';, that's reality. Sex with feelings is a different experience. No one wants to be hurt, so it's about trust and taking a risk. By the way--you should focus on your partner's pleasure, not just your own.
Proper Sex? We all do it pretty much the same way (yes, there are variations and individual quirks/preferences but you have to learn those when you are with someone new).



Before you do anything, PLEASE get a full panel STD test from your dr (or if you're embarrassed, go to a local clinic). She'll be more upset if you pass something on to her than if your technique doesn't match up to hers right away.



Good Luck, be open minded and know that the fact that you're wanting to do what pleases her means that you're going to be GREAT!
Find a gf have sex when you married.
Well depends were you get your prostitutes from, you should have learned a lot from them!!!! im shy also just because I live in US but I was born in a different country. But goodthing I still get some! lol..



Anyways... just act like you know what the heck your doing. and last longer!!!!!!
you keep saying that you havent had sex with ';normal girls';...look the sex is the same the only difference is that the prostitutes tacke money for it....so you should stop worring and start being happy cuz now you are having fun and all you did was pay for her drink.

Have Fun.
When you would have sex with a girl, you would have it after she really likes you. So it doesn't matter how you preform because there is a bond already established.

I would suggest to take it easy and not be conscious about it. Just enjoy the evening with the date and take it easy.
Wow unless its super freaky sex, sex is sex right weather its a prostitute or not (i wouldn't know i've never been with one)?! I'm sure you can have proper sex, and just like make it not to freaky until you get to know her or she initiates the freakishness.

As for the what happens well hmm penis goes in, penis goes out. Try to not go straight the back way if you know what i mean, cos i'd punch a guy if he did. If you make her feel really special and safe everything should go right. keep your body close to hers rather than far away... Um i'd say a good sex scene you could go off is the one in the matrix or something like that. REMEMBER, nothing freaky too soon like fetishes or stuff




get a blowup doll or a fake vagina from a porno store